Have you ever had that feeling - you know, the one where you feel hella good after putting on that one pair of jeans or feeling fab after doing your nails? Or, maybe, after going through your morning routine? That’s your mom power.
Those moments where we feel our badassery - where we know how amazing, talented, and beautiful we are. Yet, unsurprisingly, 20 minutes later when we’re facing the third toddler meltdown or your kid broke the family heirloom we lose that feeling.
But, there’s another way.
In episode 2 of The Mom Movement, I speak on how to discover your mom power and how to stay in it despite the laundry, the bills, and the fights you have to break up between your kids among many things. I share the importance of tuning in to your power and how to use that to bring your desires into your reality.
This is only part one of manifesting your dreams and living the life you want as a badass mom. Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @jessicadoman_ for the latest podcast announcements and updates on the latest episodes.
If you would like to listen to episode 2 of The Mom Movement on Spotify, you can do so here: Listen to episode two “How Can You Stay in Your Mom Power?” here.
It’s easy to think that being a mom means putting your needs on hold - and to a certain extent, you’re right. What you’re not thinking about is the needs that CAN be met, the dreams that CAN be achieved, or even how you CAN be a mom that has it all.
#1. They have a self-care routine
I have never met a mom that didn’t need a break, whether that’s a mental health break, actual break, or even just a 15 minute time to themselves. It’s so easy for our kids to become the center of our attention - for good reason - but, you have to remember yourself!
Moms that seem to have it all always have a self-care routine. This could be something as simple as waking up with your coffee and reading a book before wake-up, or taking a long bath with a glass of wine at night. I’ll let you in on a secret too, you CAN fit self-care into your schedule without the mom guilt.
#2. They don’t compare themselves to other moms
You’re probably reading this because you’re under the impression that Sally on IG has her life 100% put together. Her photos portray the “perfect” mom life. She’s crafty, smart, well-balanced, etc. But, you’ve gathered all this through her IG! Social media is only the surface of someone’s life, her life could be nowhere near where she wants. She could even be reading this too.
You have to stop comparing yourself before you can create a life where you have it all. Comparing yourself to other moms, bringing yourself down because you’re not the same as them, or wishing you could be more like them are all harmful ways of thinking. You’re a badass mom (and they are too) and don’t forget it!
#3. They have clear goals
My “have it all” mom life is going to look a lot different than yours. Want to know why? It’s because our goals are different. You’re going to have different aspirations from other moms, and that’s okay. You need a life that YOU’RE satisfied with, not the mama down the road (re-read #2 for reference).
Establishing goals for yourself mentally, physically, and in life will help you build a life you want. When you don’t have goals to reach, you’re often left with a feeling of confusion or, rather, lacking a sense of purpose.
#4. They connect with a community
One of the biggest misconceptions about motherhood is that you’re alone. Overwhelmed by our kids and the thoughts that we have to give up our wants in exchange for their happiness and stability, we hold ourselves back. That’s where a strong and empowering community comes into play.
Moms who have it all were able to get there by connecting with other moms who either felt the same or who were able to push past those feelings. A community is key to discussing your insecurities and developing friendships outside of home or work. One day, your community might give you the push you need to take chances - one of the main habits of moms who have it all.
#5. They take chances
Moms who have it all are willing to take chances to get there. We’re so used to playing it safe and being afraid of being bold that having it all seems so far away. We have to take chances to get what we want and accomplish our goals.
And, remember, this type of mindset shift doesn’t happen overnight. You might hesitate, you might struggle, you might doubt yourself - it’s natural. If you’re ready to be a bolder you and be the mom who has it all, connect with me on IG and join me for my magnetic mama 5-week program.
I used to work in corporate world. I’d spend my days on conference calls behind a computer screen listening to people complain about teeny tiny problems and bending over backwards to fix it.
I would do anything to impress and be a good employee which meant saying yes to extra projects, responding to emails asap and working long hours plus travel.
Oh the travel.
After having my oldest Tyler, I began to look at becoming healthier, using clean products, etc. and was bombarded with the fact the products I was spending my hard earned money on were indeed not clean.
If you know me you know dishonesty adds rage to my eyes.
So I was on a quest to find clean healthy products and when I found them my mission was to tell all Mamas about the truth lurking in our homes and give them the solution.
In this passion, my first biz was born.
I ran through the ranks of this company and loved every second.
But after 6 months and hitting a rank it takes most people 3-4 years I was tired.
I’d work my day job all day then my biz all night.
Hustle was all I was taught.
And I couldn't do it anymore. I was burnt out and my hubby told me one day this freedom you’re chasing is hurting our family. “You’re never not working or on your damn phone.”
He was right. My son was growing up in front of my eyes but I was too focused on my biz to notice it.
Hustle for a few years then relax and reap rewards is what I was taught, but losing these precious moments and years with my fam to do that was no longer going to be my reality even though that was the norm in my industry.
Around that same time i had a miscarriage than infertility struggles.
Talk about stress, talk about anxiety. Talk about overwhelm. Disappointment. Heartache. I was convinced the chemicals I’d used in the past were the reason for these struggles and I blamed myself.
Further digging into sharing my message with moms everywhere to be sure what was in their homes and on their babies was good clean products.
After a year we did 1 found of IUI and I was pregnant with our now sweet Angel baby Connor.
My pregnancy was rough. I was so worried if i could carry a healthy baby full term. I was still balancing two jobs so I made the decision to quit my corporate job and only work my wellness biz.
About that same time my friend Christa started selling a course and coaching mindset and to support her I enrolled not knowing that it would have the largest impact on my life to date.
The program taught me about how I create my own reality.
Limiting beliefs, freedom, universal laws and how I have the absolute power to tune into me to design and love and live my best life ever.
Over the past 2.5 years I've studied countless programs, books and coached myself, family, friends, and clients into living their life authentically for them.
I live in my life in what i want. What I need. And I’m proud to say I now live my best life.
I’m married to the man of my dreams in the best marriage we’ve designed together in the marriage I always wanted.
We have 2 healthy beautiful boys. I live in my dream home that we built.
My bank account is always growing. Wealth is all around me. My heart is full of so much joy. I bless other people with donations. With big tips and wherever my heart feels called.
I drive my dream car that I manifested just last year. My heart is so full of joy. It is so full. I radiate love and energy. I am whole. I am happy. So freaking happy.
This dream doesn’t mean I don't have struggles, it just means I have tools to manage them and release these struggles. And the obstacles always come with a great big lesson and present for the next version of me.
The once overwhelmed, overworked, people please mama is now obsessed with me and the life I live.
And I’m here to help you live the life you want.
To feel your same truth. Freedom. Whatever the FUCK it is you want. You get to design it. I will help you every step of the way.
I want these words to be your new vocabulary.
“Yes please. More please.
Thank you. More of that please.
I want more. Everyday. More confidence. More Love. More Passion. More freedom. More wealth. More happiness.
Now the question is, do YOU want this for yourself?!
Trying to maintain a positive mindset when dealing with work, kids, home, and everything else in the universe seems nearly impossible - and sometimes it is. It’s hard to maintain yourself when you’re being pulled in every direction, which is pretty much every day when you’re a mom!
Add in social media, news outlets, podcasts, and blogs and you now have mental overload! All that information overload and ‘noise’ is the perfect mixture to overcome all the hard work you’ve put into keeping a positive mindset… Meaning you’ll need to take a moment and do a motherhood mindset detox!
You need to take a step back and re-evaluate your mindset and how you’re maintaining your mindset, and here’s how you’re going to do it:
Schedule time to rest & reset…
There’s that word again, “schedule” - I know that with our lives as busy moms it seems nearly impossible to create and stick to a schedule, but truly it’s just about setting an adaptable schedule and managing our time properly. Part of this means scheduling out time for our fried mom-brains and bodies to rest!
Take this time to do something brain-numbing (in a good way!) like doing a crossword, reading a good book - I highly recommend The Beautiful No by Sheri Salata - or doing a brain dump in your journal or planner.
Go to your ‘happy place’...
While it might sound a little cheesy, I can promise that it actually works! Your happy place can be either a mental space you create for a quick retreat when you’re close to being overwhelmed by thoughts, actions, or emotions or a physical space. I have one of each as it’s much easier for me to take a minute or two in my mental ‘happy space’ standing in the kitchen than taking a hike or adventuring too far outdoors.
Whenever your thoughts begin to turn negative, go to your happy place for a quick mindset reset.
Empty your brain aka brain dump…
Keeping a cluttered brain is keeping you one step closer to a negative mindset. The best way to solve this is by doing a brain dump. A brain dump is essentially taking a moment and writing down everything in your brain - whether it makes sense or not.
Brain dumps are great ways to show what you have on your mind and what is worrying you that you didn’t realize. Honestly, you should create a habit of doing a brian dump once per day! Doing one a little bit before day can help you clear your mind and get a better night’s sleep too.
Did you know that multitasking is actually bad for your productivity and mindset? Multitasking causes you to be less efficient as you’re trying to focus on too many tasks at once and the same process applies to your mind. When you try and think about too many things at one, you become overwhelmed and tend to struggle to find solutions.
Try to focus on only one thing at a time and ignore passing thoughts (or write them down to re-think about later) instead of adding them on your plate at that exact moment.
Reduce negativity & noise...
We’re often influenced by what we see around us, especially on social media or in the news - which is sadly filled with a lot of negativity rather than positivity.
Being a mom means that we’re homework helpers, house cleaners, cooks, business women, and more but that doesn’t mean that we have a magical ability that keeps our brains organized and our mindsets positive. It takes a little extra effort on our end, but it’s always worth it!