Simple Tips That’ll Help You Balance Your Mom-Work Life




Balancing motherhood and work is the ultimate work-in-progress, one that never quite seems to end. For the entirety of my life as a mother, I’ve worked to create a system that works for me - and surprise, it’s ALWAYS changing. 


As your children get older and your work life demands change, we find ourselves struggling to maintain the small amount of balance that we’ve achieved. Often, this causes us to revert back to our stressed-out state.


Even as we struggle to find create some resemblance of sanity in our lives, there are a few things we can do each time to help out - aka these super simple tips for balancing your work-mom life:


Delegate Home & Work Tasks

“Hands-off” is not really in our vocabulary, but we can at least try. No one said being a working mom was going to be easy, but they also didn’t tell you that it’s 100% okay to delegate tasks to other household members or (if you own your own business) to outsource a few business tasks.


Delegate tasks that can easily be handed off at home or are time-consuming in your business. This can be as simple as asking a family member to pick your children up from school or extracurricular activities once per week or hiring a VA to manage your calendar.

Make “To-do” Lists

A simple addition to your typical morning routine, start creating two to-do lists every morning - one for work, one for home. I highly recommend separating each list into mini-list categorized by:

-Need to Do

-Want to Do


As you’re making each list, try to limit yourself to three-five major need to do items, allowing the rest to fill in your want to do section. This will keep you from being overwhelmed on one side versus the other.

Prepare in Advance

Have a little freetime on the weekend or maybe you have a little extra time on a certain day of the week? Use this time to start preparing for your week in advance. 


Start prepping lunches, activities, and building nighttime and morning routines that prepare for later in the day or the next day (like tidying up toys every night before bed).

Know What Time of Day Works for You

Are you a morning person or a night owl? Identify what time of day works best for you to accomplish mentally taxing tasks or ones that require high-concentration and assign those tasks to that time of the day.


You’ll find that knowing WHEN you’re most productive and utilizing that time will keep you less stressed and allow you to finish tasks more efficiently - leaving more time for mom-life. If you don’t know what time works best for you, take a week and rotate!

Have Designated Break Times

Have designated break times from both your family and your work - you can suffer from both mom burnout and work burnout and neither are great for keeping your mom-work life balance.


Taking time to have a lunch break, just sitting after a strenuous task, or just planning a 15 minute stretch can help keep your mind clear and help you stay productive.

Balancing Mom-Work Life


Finding a healthy mom-work balance can be hard, and it can’t be done alone. You should always be open to accepting help (and understand that it’s okay to ASK for help). 


Being a working mom doesn’t mean that we should sit back and be okay with never moving forward in our jobs and businesses - or that we should miss out on the key w=events in our children’s lives. It’s about finding a balance between the two and discovering what you’re okay with doing and what you’re not… aka establishing and sticking to boundaries. 


But, that’s a problem for another day. For now, start with the simple things, like learning to establish a routine to help you balance or getting help from moms that have been in your shoes!

4 Mindset Shifts to Relieve Stress for Moms

4 Mindset Shifts to Relieve Stress for Moms



Did you know that you could relieve stress just by changing how you think? It’s true. Your mindset is more powerful than you think and simply switching up your thought process can help you relieve some of that built up stress that comes with being a busy mom. 


Stress is a huge struggle for moms, whether it’s trying to avoid it or dealing with it head on  - and sometimes, it feels like it’ll never change. And while stress is a nuisance in small doses, overtime it can leave lasting effects on your mental and physical health, such as:


Mental Effects:

  • Reduction in brain chemicals needed for happiness 

  • Depression

  • Low self-worth

  • Perfectionist thinking (aka never good enough)

  • Inability to take criticism


Physical Effects:

  • Exhaustion

  • Hormone imbalances

  • Immune system damage


Here’s a secret though, that’s NOT how it’s supposed to be. 


Mom-ing is hard, but it shouldn’t feel impossible. You shouldn’t have to struggle through the stress, guilt, and overwhelm daily. Instead, try something new… like these four mindset shifts to relieve stress:

#1: Drop the Mom Guilt

Just breathe and let it go. Mom guilt is one of the largest contributing factors of stress in moms and can actually cause chronic stress if left untreated. While it doesn’t seem possible at the moment, getting rid of mom-guilt is a great realistic expectation as a mom and will greatly help you reduce stress in your day-to-day life. 


Mom guilt stems from the fact that we love our child and want what’s best for them and feel guilty if we think we’ve ‘underperformed’ as a mom. Sometimes, it can even come out after something little - like serving poptarts for breakfast rather than a platter of bacon, eggs, toast, etc.


But, you’re not in it alone! Every mom deals with mom guilt at some point in their journey through motherhood - that’s why I created The Mama Vaulta community of like-minded moms to help you get through the rough patches!

#2: Learn How to Say NO

Along with kissing mom-guilt goodbye, it’s time to start believing in the word NO again. I’m not talking about your parenting style either, I’m talking about prioritizing yourself again and saying NO to situations that are going to make you feel stressed and overwhelmed. 


Being a mom, there’s this stigma that says that we should be ‘people pleasers’ leading us to say yes to family visits, trips, or even errands that are actually too much for us to mentally handle at that moment. 


Instead of doing what’s best to please others, take a step back and determine whether it’s best for you - and don’t be stingy with the NO’s.

#3: Breakaway from Perfection

There is no such thing as a perfect mom. We all have our good stuff and our not-so-good stuff, but our kids are not judging us on how perfect we are - it’s just us. 


Perfection is an illusion and striving to make no mistakes is a setup for failure - and more stress. Simply adjusting your mindset and reassuring yourself that perfection is not possible, not necessary and sticking to it can take the weight off your shoulders.


I understand that adjustments take time, so the best way to start putting this into practice is when you start to get overwhelmed with tasks. When the task seems too daunting or you don’t have the motivation, just remember - you don’t need to be (or need it to be) perfect. 

#4: Remember Your Why

After a while of repeating the same schedules, the same stressors, the same struggles, it becomes harder to remember the why behind it all. Why you’re working hard, why you picked your goals, why you took this path, and, sometimes, even why you wanted to have a family.


The key to maintaining a balanced mindset and not succumbing to stress is identifying your why’s and sticking to them when times are tough. If you’re not sure ‘why’ you’re doing it, sit down and re-evaluate your lifestyle and mindset to determine your new why.

Relieving Stress With a Mindset Shift





Relieving stress as a busy mom is going to require more than just a few stress relief activities. Long term stress relief comes from adjusting how you think about and cope with your daily stressors. 


Motherhood is hard on us all and it’s even harder when you feel like you’re alone… 

Join a community of like minded moms or join in my Take Back Your Day Challenge to transform your mornings:


Join the Challenge >> I Am Taking My Day Back!



Your Guide for where to Eat, Shop and Stay while visiting Waco, Texas and the coveted Magnolia!



Are you yearning for a girls trip?


I feel you. After the last 18 months, I don’t know what could be better than a girls trip.

Have you heard of Chip and Joanna Gaines? Better known as Magnolia. It’s an incredible now household name and brand that Chip and Joanna Gaines created. It started and is housed in Waco Texas. 


And it also happens to be an incredible destination for a girls trip. Ask me how I know because three of my sweet friends planned a belated surprise birthday trip for me to Magnolia and Waco,Texas last week.

We spent our time shopping for home items; decor, kitchen updates includes utensils and housewares. Along with boutique shopping. Oh and how could I forget I got a gorgeous piece of furniture for my stairway- coastal theme y’all! Fits me to a T. 

And when we were researching this trip, it was apparent there wasn’t a lot of information on what to do when visiting Waco and since we were on a tight timeline we put together an itinerary of where to shop, where to eat and where we recommend staying-spoiler alert, it’s the cutest little house that I cannot wait to go back to one day. Plus one additional recommendation on where to stay, right next to where we stayed, a new house called The Sterling House-so dang adorable! 

Keep reading to hear more about the where to eat, where to shop, what to do, and all the ins and outs of an epic girls trip focused around fun, shopping, food and incredible girl time. 

Of course I’m breaking it down for you into three categories: Where to Eat, Where to
Shop and where to Stay. Save this blog link and share it so everyone can make the most of their time in Waco ❤️

                                         Eat! 
                                                                          *Those that are highlighted in Pink are the ones I personally ate  

135 Prime 120 Hewitt Dr Suite 110 Waco Texas
Upscale, fun and moody Steakhouse, seafood and farm-to table produce was our first nights dinner. The dirty martini, the scallops the creme brûlée were amazing! Definitely recommend this place- it would also make a perfect date night restaurant!

Food trucks at the Silos 601 Webster Ave https://magnolia.a58jq0h9-liquidwebsites.com/silos/#silos-eat  

Moroso wood fired pizza 4700 bosque blvd https://morosopizzeria.com/

2132 S. Valley Mills Dr

Sirona (eatery &shop) 1509 Austin Ave.  https://sironiawaco.com/

Silos Baking Co. 601 Webster Ave. https://magnolia.com/silos-baking-co/
Ummmm the buttercream frosting on the cupcakes-YUM! Cupcakes, cookies and cinnamon rolls-don’t miss this for a sweet treat!

                                      Pic is of us first in line at Silos Bakery for some cupcakes which we brought home for our men to enjoy!


                                                SHOP! 
                                                                           *Those that are highlighted in Pink are the ones I personally shopped 

Magnolia Market 601 Webster Ave
The big shopping experience! Home goods, jewelry, hand bags and Waco souvenirs. This is the whole shebang all created by Chip and Joanna Gaines! After leaving the market you will come out in the beautiful landscaped grounds and food trucks featuring more cottage shopping. This is a truly unique and incredible shopping experience! 

Summer Ellis Bijouterie 601. Franklin Ave
Fine Jewelry with ad etlicate modern twist. We went into this shop-very cute but didn’t buy anything however, if you’re looking for unique jewelry-this is the place! 

Pretty in Pink Flamingo Boutique 611 Washington
We eyed this shop when it was closed and couldn’t wait to go back. Pink is my favorite color! Cute, trendy shop which was fun to explore although ultimately I didn’t find anything I  absolutely needed to have but still would recommend you check it out :)




Brazos River Supply Co 210 A S 5th St
Don’t forget about the men in your life :) This shop features some fun and unique mens gifts along with this adorable Waco sign we took our picture in front of.


The Findery 501 S 8th St (close to silos) 2 locations
There are 2 locations of The Findery so be sure to hit them both. My friends and I  scored big time at the initial Findery location (it was also our first shop to hit as we came into Waco so of course we came in hot! We bought earrings, dresses, shirts, necklaces and a jacket! But there were many more things to catch our eye. The downstairs is full of houseware and decor items!

The second location was so fun and we were so glad to have found it on our way out of town heading to the airport. I got napkins, a salad bowl set with salad tongs, Cake stand, and a cutting board set!

Paper Crown 601 Franklin Ave
Stationary, Craft Foods and Scrapbooking. My friend scored some adorable lunchbox notes to share with her boys. 

Fox and Gray-300 S. 6th (near silos) 
Adorable shop where for the fashionista! I scored this adorable orange 2 piece jumper set with a crop top and high waisted shorts which will be perfect for summer along with a hat to keep the sun off my face in the summer sun :) 

Little shop on bosque (Gaines original location)-3801 Bosque Blvd, Waco (10-5)
This is also called the “Scratch and Dent” shop where you can pick up some items that aren’t so perfect from Magnolia Market up to 75% off! When we visited I stocked up on some gold napkin rings while my friends got some greenery, cookbook and cutting board. 

Sironia- 1509 Austin Ave
We shopped and shopped and shopped here. We loved this place! Lots of small boutiques inside this one location which makes it easy for different styles to shop all in the same place! Staff is super friendly and they have a cute little coffee/dessert and sandwich shop inside too! And bonus if you’re an antique lover, an antique section upstairs. We bought lots of goodies here!

Interior Glo- Very Cool Home Decor. Lightening and Furniture shop. You could definitely peruse in this place for hours! We were probably in here looking for an hour! We didn’t buy anything but so fun to look!

Roots Boutique- Really fun modern clothing, jewelry and shoes shop! We didn’t make it into this one but looks adorable online!

Mainstream boutique- 600 Franklin 
The jewelry in this place is….well LOVE! I  snagged some earrings while my friends also got some jewelry along with some cute boutique clothing which is some of my fav because you can’t find it anywhere else :) 

Spice village (temp location 924 Austin Ave.)
This location was temporarily moved to the address listed above due to water damage from a bad winter storm Texas was hit with in the Spring of 2021. Spice village includes a lot (read EVEN more than you think) of shops. It’s very cool because all sorts of stores have their own little section and can display their own merchandise. I  don’t do well in these types of places as I find it overwhelming to shop so I  didn’t snag anything but my friends found a few things from greenery to clothes!

Apricot lane-2444 W Loop 340 in strip mall)-
We swung in this place almost at the end of our 12 hour day of shopping and didn’t buy anything but it was very cute and trendy clothing!

Adorn 804 Austin Ave. 
Really cute boutique filled with fashion forward clothes! I didn’t pick up anything here but the staff was friendly and my friends found a few cute tops they bought and loved!


Lanes-1601 Austin Ave gift shop in old house
Beautiful shop full of china, intricate cups, napkins, table pieces and pretty much any entertainers dream! If you’re in the area be sure to check out Lanes to register for dishes and China, the staff is friendly and the building is historic charm sure to leave you feeling at home. 

Iron Willow- 300 S 6th St, (metal art/word signage)
Next door to Fox and Grey- we didn’t make it inside but it looks adorable from outside and has a cute opportunity for a photo opportunity right out front!

Honey interior design-1700 Austin Ave
I scored this incredible Beachwood table which I can’t wait to write about once it arrives and give you all further details! I’m going to feature this in my stairway which has needed a table or design element since we moved in. The staff is super friendly and the furniture and decor featured in Honey Interior Design is certainly one of a kind!

                                        Stay!! 
                                                                                             *Highlighted in Pink is the home I stayed 

The Story House: The cutest brand new house 300 steps to Magnolia Market is the perfect place to stay for a trip to Waco. 

The incredible details with lots of natural light and modern furnishings are sure to make you feel warm and welcome. The incredible beauty and attention to detail in these effortless amenities will exceed your needs during your stay in Waco. 
The @StoryHouseWaco is the perfect spot to enjoy Magnolia Market, Magnolia Silos, Baylor and all the other incredible goodness Waco has to offer. 

Two bicycles are also included to help you roam around Waco taking in the sights with a bike ride!

Brand new, just completed (right next door to where I  stayed The Story House) is this beautiful, dreamy Sterling House. The sweet Owner allowed us to view this home for what will hopefully be a near future visit :) 




Again this house is just 300 short steps from Magnolia Market making it a dream location for Magnolia Silos, Baylor and everything Downtown Waco has to offer (read SHOPPING :)). 

This house is thoughtfully inspired with zen beach girly vibes which will bring you right into a perfect setting for a girls shopping trip if that’s what drew you to Waco. 

Detailed and exceptional design will have you dreaming about all the incredible design elements you could implement into your own home when you get back from your stay.

Two bicycles are also included to help you roam around Waco taking in the sights with a bike ride!

That's a wrap on an epic SURPRISE girls trip for 2021 you can be sure I'll be sharing all the details on my next big trip so be sure to click subscribe to the blog for all the updates coming your way!



Heart and Inner Growth,
XO,
Jess





Mom Life without community? No way..

Mom life where else can you say a word that means so many things?



Mom means caretaker, doer of all the things, taking care of everyone else, chef,  chauffeur, kisser of all the boo boos and pretty much everything else. 

Mom life is Incredible, amazing, terrifying, emotional and pretty much every other feeling in the whole wide world.

It’s also pretty much the best job there is. But here in this world right now in this connectedness that we have there is no better time to be living the best mom life than right freaking now.

Are you ready to live your best mom life?

What are you waiting for?

Do you need a community of moms who love and support you in this incredible yet terrifying journey of  Motherhood? Oh and I forgot one really valid and important point, moms who don’t judge you.

I’m talking moms who if you let your kids eat cake for breakfast no big deal or if you let your five kids sleep in bed with you, no big deal. Do you need this kind of support?

Because in this world, right now what I know we all need more of is understanding of each other. If we all came together and just love to one another how incredible with the world be?

When I became a mom, I was bombarded with all of the things that I should do say buy yeah when I had questions or disagreed with something I read online there was nobody there to say that’s OK you’re allowed to have those feelings instead it was more like I was belittled for believing differently than somebody else or raising my kids differently than somebody else. 

It left me feeling despaired upset and disappointed that this is the world that my child will grow up in

And frankly I decide to do something about it, so I created this incredible group call the Unjudged motherhood project It’s a place were all moms can come and feel the love and support of whatever they need. Where we don’t judge. Because we haven’t walked in your shoes. We have no idea what’s brought you to where you are today. But we know you need love and you need support.



And if there’s anybody that can do that it’s moms. Because mom life is the best life. And if us moms began to love each other like we love our children the world would be an incredible place. And, what would we teach our children? How to love everyone too. And I’m up for a world like that to raise my babies in, how about you?

You can find this empowering group here. 

Mindfulness Activities for the Modern Day Mom

Mindfulness activities- what do those look like for you? If you are mom, like me, it might mean five minutes in your car by yourself?

We are all busy. Every single one of us. Yet I'm biased to say Moms are even more swamped. It's because we run the house, we run the show, we cook, clean and do all the things for ourselves and our family. Plus we work! Either in or outside the home! I also run a business which I'm inclined to think makes me a little bit busier too. But this isn't about a busy badge of honor, instead its about-how I can incorporate so much into my busy lifestyle so I feel my best and love the life I live!

So, what's it for you Mama, what are your goals for everyday life for you? Do you want to live your best life every dang day? I hope so. Because you're the kind of Mom I want to lock arms with and become Mamahood besties with! 

Or it might mean binging your favorite TV show after everybody else is in bed.

But what if there was a new form of mindfulness?

A new form of mindfulness that you could do that didn’t interfere with your busy life? That actually made a difference in how you felt every day?



What if you could have your sanity and your time back?

Good news is now you can! I’m sharing with you my top 10 easy busy mom packs for mindfulness.

1. get up before your kids 

2. keep your phone off until you’re ready to work for the day

3. set a timer on your phone for how long you want to scroll on social media

4. meditate for at least 15 minutes every day. Bonus, this can even be done in the car pick up line. Ask me how I know, because I know 🙂

5. Work on a schedule that works for you. If you’re an early riser get up early, if you’re a night owl do things at night to make your next day more productive

6. Plan plan plan. Meals schedules childcare planning to fail? Oh no you’re not plan that schedule

7. Get at least an hour of self-care solo each week

8.Remember to treat yourself well. Talk nice to yourself. Love yourself

9. Some days will be better than others, it’s the days when things don’t go so great and you give yourself Grace that makes a difference in the days that do go great

10.Life is quick, short, moves faster than we’d like. But what if we enjoyed every second of it?



If you need more busy mom tips be sure to check out The Mama Vault for our Take Your Day Back Challenge specifically designed to help busy Moms just like you THRIVE in their day, everyday.

PSS. Also you can check out my Growing Mamas Mind course which is only $11 because that's how much everyone needs to have it. Growing your Mind is so powerful and actually the only tool you really need to change your life. 

So, what do you say, are you up for it? 

See you Inside,
XO,
Jess
 
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