Hi, I'm Jess, can we be friends? Here's my story. What's yours?

I used to work in corporate world. I’d spend my days on conference calls behind a computer screen listening to people complain about teeny tiny problems and bending over backwards to fix it. 


I would do anything to impress and be a good employee which meant saying yes to extra projects, responding to emails asap and working long hours plus travel. 


Oh the travel. 


After having my oldest Tyler, I began to look at becoming healthier, using clean products, etc. and was bombarded with the fact the products I was spending my hard earned money on were indeed not clean. 




UGH. 


If you know me you know dishonesty adds rage to my eyes. 


So I was on a quest to find clean healthy products and when I found them my mission was to tell all Mamas about the truth lurking in our homes and give them the solution. 


In this passion, my first biz was born.


I ran through the ranks of this company and loved every second. 


But after 6 months and hitting a rank it takes most people 3-4 years I was tired. 


I’d work my day job all day then my biz all night. 


Hustle was all I was taught. 


And I couldn't do it anymore. I was burnt out and my hubby told me one day this freedom you’re chasing is hurting our family. “You’re never not working or on your damn phone.”


He was right. My son was growing up in front of my eyes but I was too focused on my biz to notice it. 


Hustle for a few years then relax and reap rewards is what I was taught, but losing these precious moments and years with my fam to do that was no longer going to be my reality even though that was the norm in my industry. 


Around that same time i had a miscarriage than infertility struggles. 


Talk about stress, talk about anxiety. Talk about overwhelm. Disappointment. Heartache. I was convinced the chemicals I’d used in the past were the reason for these struggles and I blamed myself. 


Further digging into sharing my message with moms everywhere to be sure what was in their homes and on their babies was good clean products.


After a year we did 1 found of IUI and I was pregnant with our now sweet Angel baby Connor.


My pregnancy was rough. I was so worried if i could carry a healthy baby full term. I was still balancing two jobs so I made the decision to quit my corporate job and only work my wellness biz.


About that same time my friend Christa started selling a course and coaching mindset and to support her I enrolled not knowing that it would have the largest impact on my life to date.


The program taught me about how I create my own reality. 


Limiting beliefs, freedom, universal laws and how I have the absolute power to tune into me to design and love and live my best life ever.


Over the past 2.5 years I've studied countless programs, books and coached myself, family, friends, and clients into living their life authentically for them. 


I live in my life in what i want. What I need. And I’m proud to say I now live my best life.


I’m married to the man of my dreams in the best marriage we’ve designed together in the marriage I always wanted. 


We have 2 healthy beautiful boys. I live in my dream home that we built. 


My bank account is always growing. Wealth is all around me. My heart is full of so much joy. I bless other people with donations. With big tips and wherever my heart feels called.


I drive my dream car that I manifested just last year. My heart is so full of joy. It is so full. I radiate love and energy. I am whole. I am happy. So freaking happy.


This dream doesn’t mean I don't have struggles, it just means I have tools to manage them and release these struggles. And the obstacles always come with a great big lesson and present for the next version of me.


The once overwhelmed, overworked, people please mama is now obsessed with me and the life I live.


And I’m here to help you live the life you want. 


To feel your same truth. Freedom. Whatever the FUCK it is you want. You get to design it. I will help you every step of the way.


I want these words to be your new vocabulary.


“Yes please. More please. 


Thank you. More of that please.


I want more. Everyday. More confidence. More Love. More Passion.  More freedom. More wealth. More happiness.


Now the question is, do YOU want this for yourself?! 

How to do a Motherhood Mindset Detox

How to do a Motherhood Mindset Detox

Trying to maintain a positive mindset when dealing with work, kids, home, and everything else in the universe seems nearly impossible - and sometimes it is. It’s hard to maintain yourself when you’re being pulled in every direction, which is pretty much every day when you’re a mom!


Add in social media, news outlets, podcasts, and blogs and you now have mental overload! All that information overload and ‘noise’ is the perfect mixture to overcome all the hard work you’ve put into keeping a positive mindset… Meaning you’ll need to take a moment and do a motherhood mindset detox!


You need to take a step back and re-evaluate your mindset and how you’re maintaining your mindset, and here’s how you’re going to do it:



Schedule time to rest & reset…

There’s that word again, “schedule” - I know that with our lives as busy moms it seems nearly impossible to create and stick to a schedule, but truly it’s just about setting an adaptable schedule and managing our time properly. Part of this means scheduling out time for our fried mom-brains and bodies to rest!


Take this time to do something brain-numbing (in a good way!) like doing a crossword, reading a good book - I highly recommend The Beautiful No by Sheri Salata - or doing a brain dump in your journal or planner.

Go to your ‘happy place’...

While it might sound a little cheesy, I can promise that it actually works! Your happy place can be either a mental space you create for a quick retreat when you’re close to being overwhelmed by thoughts, actions, or emotions or a physical space. I have one of each as it’s much easier for me to take a minute or two in my mental ‘happy space’ standing in the kitchen than taking a hike or adventuring too far outdoors.


Whenever your thoughts begin to turn negative, go to your happy place for a quick mindset reset.

Empty your brain aka brain dump…

Keeping a cluttered brain is keeping you one step closer to a negative mindset. The best way to solve this is by doing a brain dump. A brain dump is essentially taking a moment and writing down everything in your brain - whether it makes sense or not. 


Brain dumps are great ways to show what you have on your mind and what is worrying you that you didn’t realize. Honestly, you should create a habit of doing a brian dump once per day! Doing one a little bit before day can help you clear your mind and get a better night’s sleep too.

Stop multitasking…

Did you know that multitasking is actually bad for your productivity and mindset? Multitasking causes you to be less efficient as you’re trying to focus on too many tasks at once and the same process applies to your mind. When you try and think about too many things at one, you become overwhelmed and tend to struggle to find solutions. 


Try to focus on only one thing at a time and ignore passing thoughts (or write them down to re-think about later) instead of adding them on your plate at that exact moment.

Reduce negativity & noise...

We’re often influenced by what we see around us, especially on social media or in the news - which is sadly filled with a lot of negativity rather than positivity. 


Try to limit your time on social media and have ‘off’ days where you try not to turn on the TV or pick up your phone to kill time. There’s a reason why I even say you only have to spend three hours per week to grow your business on social media rather than spending your whole day online!

The Mindset Detox for Moms
 

Being a mom means that we’re homework helpers, house cleaners, cooks, business women, and more but that doesn’t mean that we have a magical ability that keeps our brains organized and our mindsets positive. It takes a little extra effort on our end, but it’s always worth it!


Still, taking care of ourselves goes beyond detoxifying our minds, but also our bodies. You can learn how to detoxify your body (and your kid’s bodies) by watching my quick video here.

The Easy Guide to Time Management as a Busy Mom

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Simple Tips That’ll Help You Balance Your Mom-Work Life




Balancing motherhood and work is the ultimate work-in-progress, one that never quite seems to end. For the entirety of my life as a mother, I’ve worked to create a system that works for me - and surprise, it’s ALWAYS changing. 


As your children get older and your work life demands change, we find ourselves struggling to maintain the small amount of balance that we’ve achieved. Often, this causes us to revert back to our stressed-out state.


Even as we struggle to find create some resemblance of sanity in our lives, there are a few things we can do each time to help out - aka these super simple tips for balancing your work-mom life:


Delegate Home & Work Tasks

“Hands-off” is not really in our vocabulary, but we can at least try. No one said being a working mom was going to be easy, but they also didn’t tell you that it’s 100% okay to delegate tasks to other household members or (if you own your own business) to outsource a few business tasks.


Delegate tasks that can easily be handed off at home or are time-consuming in your business. This can be as simple as asking a family member to pick your children up from school or extracurricular activities once per week or hiring a VA to manage your calendar.

Make “To-do” Lists

A simple addition to your typical morning routine, start creating two to-do lists every morning - one for work, one for home. I highly recommend separating each list into mini-list categorized by:

-Need to Do

-Want to Do


As you’re making each list, try to limit yourself to three-five major need to do items, allowing the rest to fill in your want to do section. This will keep you from being overwhelmed on one side versus the other.

Prepare in Advance

Have a little freetime on the weekend or maybe you have a little extra time on a certain day of the week? Use this time to start preparing for your week in advance. 


Start prepping lunches, activities, and building nighttime and morning routines that prepare for later in the day or the next day (like tidying up toys every night before bed).

Know What Time of Day Works for You

Are you a morning person or a night owl? Identify what time of day works best for you to accomplish mentally taxing tasks or ones that require high-concentration and assign those tasks to that time of the day.


You’ll find that knowing WHEN you’re most productive and utilizing that time will keep you less stressed and allow you to finish tasks more efficiently - leaving more time for mom-life. If you don’t know what time works best for you, take a week and rotate!

Have Designated Break Times

Have designated break times from both your family and your work - you can suffer from both mom burnout and work burnout and neither are great for keeping your mom-work life balance.


Taking time to have a lunch break, just sitting after a strenuous task, or just planning a 15 minute stretch can help keep your mind clear and help you stay productive.

Balancing Mom-Work Life


Finding a healthy mom-work balance can be hard, and it can’t be done alone. You should always be open to accepting help (and understand that it’s okay to ASK for help). 


Being a working mom doesn’t mean that we should sit back and be okay with never moving forward in our jobs and businesses - or that we should miss out on the key w=events in our children’s lives. It’s about finding a balance between the two and discovering what you’re okay with doing and what you’re not… aka establishing and sticking to boundaries. 


But, that’s a problem for another day. For now, start with the simple things, like learning to establish a routine to help you balance or getting help from moms that have been in your shoes!

4 Mindset Shifts to Relieve Stress for Moms

4 Mindset Shifts to Relieve Stress for Moms



Did you know that you could relieve stress just by changing how you think? It’s true. Your mindset is more powerful than you think and simply switching up your thought process can help you relieve some of that built up stress that comes with being a busy mom. 


Stress is a huge struggle for moms, whether it’s trying to avoid it or dealing with it head on  - and sometimes, it feels like it’ll never change. And while stress is a nuisance in small doses, overtime it can leave lasting effects on your mental and physical health, such as:


Mental Effects:

  • Reduction in brain chemicals needed for happiness 

  • Depression

  • Low self-worth

  • Perfectionist thinking (aka never good enough)

  • Inability to take criticism


Physical Effects:

  • Exhaustion

  • Hormone imbalances

  • Immune system damage


Here’s a secret though, that’s NOT how it’s supposed to be. 


Mom-ing is hard, but it shouldn’t feel impossible. You shouldn’t have to struggle through the stress, guilt, and overwhelm daily. Instead, try something new… like these four mindset shifts to relieve stress:

#1: Drop the Mom Guilt

Just breathe and let it go. Mom guilt is one of the largest contributing factors of stress in moms and can actually cause chronic stress if left untreated. While it doesn’t seem possible at the moment, getting rid of mom-guilt is a great realistic expectation as a mom and will greatly help you reduce stress in your day-to-day life. 


Mom guilt stems from the fact that we love our child and want what’s best for them and feel guilty if we think we’ve ‘underperformed’ as a mom. Sometimes, it can even come out after something little - like serving poptarts for breakfast rather than a platter of bacon, eggs, toast, etc.


But, you’re not in it alone! Every mom deals with mom guilt at some point in their journey through motherhood - that’s why I created The Mama Vaulta community of like-minded moms to help you get through the rough patches!

#2: Learn How to Say NO

Along with kissing mom-guilt goodbye, it’s time to start believing in the word NO again. I’m not talking about your parenting style either, I’m talking about prioritizing yourself again and saying NO to situations that are going to make you feel stressed and overwhelmed. 


Being a mom, there’s this stigma that says that we should be ‘people pleasers’ leading us to say yes to family visits, trips, or even errands that are actually too much for us to mentally handle at that moment. 


Instead of doing what’s best to please others, take a step back and determine whether it’s best for you - and don’t be stingy with the NO’s.

#3: Breakaway from Perfection

There is no such thing as a perfect mom. We all have our good stuff and our not-so-good stuff, but our kids are not judging us on how perfect we are - it’s just us. 


Perfection is an illusion and striving to make no mistakes is a setup for failure - and more stress. Simply adjusting your mindset and reassuring yourself that perfection is not possible, not necessary and sticking to it can take the weight off your shoulders.


I understand that adjustments take time, so the best way to start putting this into practice is when you start to get overwhelmed with tasks. When the task seems too daunting or you don’t have the motivation, just remember - you don’t need to be (or need it to be) perfect. 

#4: Remember Your Why

After a while of repeating the same schedules, the same stressors, the same struggles, it becomes harder to remember the why behind it all. Why you’re working hard, why you picked your goals, why you took this path, and, sometimes, even why you wanted to have a family.


The key to maintaining a balanced mindset and not succumbing to stress is identifying your why’s and sticking to them when times are tough. If you’re not sure ‘why’ you’re doing it, sit down and re-evaluate your lifestyle and mindset to determine your new why.

Relieving Stress With a Mindset Shift





Relieving stress as a busy mom is going to require more than just a few stress relief activities. Long term stress relief comes from adjusting how you think about and cope with your daily stressors. 


Motherhood is hard on us all and it’s even harder when you feel like you’re alone… 

Join a community of like minded moms or join in my Take Back Your Day Challenge to transform your mornings:


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