The Guide to Masculine and Feminine Energy

Ever read the book “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” or maybe you’ve just HEARD of it? Yeah, me too. Let’s just put a little twist on this concept and introduce something new for you to anchor into Feminine and Masculine energies. 

Feminine and masculine energies have different frequencies and contribute to the importance of being a woman, specifically when balancing both. Each energy affects you differently and serves a different purpose. Here’s what you need to know about masculine and feminine energies:


DIY At-Home Self Care Ritual for Moms

I’m a little different in what I do for my at-home self-care, which I don’t necessarily refer to as “self-care” anymore, I like to refer to these appointments, tasks, and items I love as joy pleasures.

My Favorite Self-Care Ritual

To kick off my joy pleasures (self-care rituals) for the month, I sit down around the first, bring out my giant calendar, and take out my pink sticky notes. The calendar stays on the desk in my office, and this is how I plan my self-care for the month. I don’t limit myself to traditional ideas of “self-care” I essentially write anything that I feel is going to bring me either joy or pleasure (see where I got the name?) on the stickies. This includes my reiki appointments, hair appointments, facials, etc.

Why? So I can go back and remember each of those self-care things. The incredible message, the great reiki, the empowering breathing. And at the end of the month, I actually save those sticky notes and put them in a drawer in my office - at the end of the year, I love going through every month and remembering and expressing gratitude for each time I was able to do a little self-care and take those moments for myself.

Other Amazing Self-Care Rituals for Moms (That I Love)

Writing everything on my calendar is both a self-care ritual for me and a way to express gratitude for self-care. But, it’s not the ONLY thing I do for self-care (nor is facials and reiki). Here are a few amazing self-care rituals I love for moms:

  • Baths. I absolutely love a good detox bath with essential oils and Epsom salt. I used to bring my phone or a book in with me to relax, but now I’ve been enjoying the silence of just being me - no tech, no extras.

  • Everyday meditation. Love it, love it, love it. I meditate anywhere from half an hour to an hour 15 per day and it WILL change your life. It’s how I connect with my desires and my next-level self. 

  • Manifestation. This comes through a lot with the meditation and journaling I do. It’s setting my manifestation of what I’m calling in from the universe, what is the next thing I’m desiring for more - is it more freedom, more wealth, more time, more joy, more pleasure, more fun? I do this through the manifestation process that I teach in the Mom’s Manifestation Academy.

Self-Care Stuff I Love

Almost all of my everyday self-care rituals don’t require much, just a book, maybe some essential oils, and a few other things. Here are a few self-care things that I love and like to keep around my house:

Essential oils and Epsom salts are perfect for those relaxing baths I love to take. As well as my top three books, 

  1. Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

  2. Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon

  3. Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams

And you don’t need ANY of it to do your own at-home self-care rituals, they’re just things that I’ve found that help ME. Honestly, the whole purpose is to start introducing your own rituals because mama, you deserve it.

The Do's and Don'ts of Manifestation: Mom Edition

I have lived through manifestation - it’s been my guide, my calling to embrace and teach to other badass moms. It’s part of the energy that surrounds me, the power I hold over my life, and the way I embrace my dreams & goals, stay thankful for my experiences, and grow through the negative events in my life. And I absolutely love my life - which is why I want to teach you the do’s and don’ts of manifesting as a mom…

What is Manifestation?

Reading through the resources on my blog, you’re going to hear a bunch of terms that might sound a little out of the ordinary such as:

And, of course, manifestation. Manifestation is using thoughts, words, and imagery to draw specific positive experiences into your life. To successfully manifest, you’re going to use all those fancy terms - and what they entail - to manifest your goals, dreams, and the life you desire. 

Manifestation for Moms

Manifestation for moms can look like aiming for your dream job to simply feeling empowered throughout the day without collapsing under the pressure of, you know, being a mom. It can also look a little like writing affirmation in the bathroom, expressing gratitude over your morning cup of coffee, taking an extra five minutes in the car after running errands to set your intentions for the day, week, or even the moment. I’ve been there. 

The way you choose to manifest is not going to look like mine, the mom on Instagram, or even your next-door neighbor. Your days are different, your lives are different, and I would bet your goals/dream lives are different too. Manifestation includes practices that help you, guide you, and allow you to embody your aspirations - but it doesn’t have a set schedule. 

One of my main goals as a motherhood mindset and manifestation coach is to show moms that you can create a way to manifest, express gratitude, and activate your desires now, not two months from now. While our end goal will include helping you make time for your manifestation practices, we work towards integrating manifestations into your life in a way that suits YOU.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Manifestation

Manifesting can be a fun, powerful experience for any mom and can lead to opening doors, changing your life, and allowing you to become a magnet for your aspirations. But, before you dive headfirst into manifesting, here are some do’s and don’ts of manifestation for moms:

Do’s of Manifestation

  • Be very clear about what you want to manifest.

  • Trust in the universe, it has a plan for you.

  • Check-in with yourself and your goals.

  • Integrate manifesting into your daily life.

Don’ts of Manifestation

  • Be afraid to ask for help, it’s okay to feel lost.

  • Give up on your manifestations or yourself.

  • Expect something to fall into your lap out of the blue.

  • Approach your manifestations halfheartedly.

How to Get Started Manifesting Your Life (for Moms)

It’s not as crazy as it sounds (nor as impossible as it sometimes looks), getting started on your manifestation journey is as easy as 1,2,3! As one of my goals - and something I felt really energized about this year - I have built out a comprehensive manifestation program for badass moms.

We don’t have time for a two-hour long morning routine ritual, an hour of meditation, and so many other programs that don’t take into account the deep-rooted beliefs and patterns that we moms deal with. In Mom’s Manifestation Academy I teach you how to embrace manifestation in your life and create a routine that works for you. We shouldn’t get excluded from living our dreams just because we don’t experience the same blocks as everyone else. Activate your desires this spring by joining the MMA waitlist today.

7 Lifechanging Affirmations for Overwhelmed Moms

There are those days when mom-life just gets the best of us. We can’t manage to stay in our mom power, we feel stressed and frustrated, but, mainly, we just feel overwhelmed with our lives and the list of things to-do. It’s the endless noise, being touched-out, or even just the overwhelming feeling of no longer being yourself - you’re “just” a mom.

And it’s so hard to deal with it alone - and I never suggest doing it alone. Instead, join the other mama’s dealing with the same feeling of overwhelm (and learning how to push through it) with a few life-changing affirmations - but, first, let’s cover what an affirmation actually is:

What is an Affirmation?

An affirmation or “affirmations” is essentially a process of affirming something (including yourself). Affirmations typically consist of a few words or 1-2 sentences that are directed towards altering your conscious and subconscious mind to develop new habits, patterns, & behaviors. 

Affirmations can be used for pretty much anything you feel you need support in. That can include positivity, wealth, healthy living, etc. The affirmations we will use today focus on self-love and positivity - along with calming and healing. 

Here are the seven life-changing affirmations I recommend:

  1. I am the mother my children need and love, I do not need to compare myself to others.

  2. I am embracing the direction my day goes and can stay in my mom power.

  3. I am valued beyond my role as a mother, but as a wife, teacher, care-giver, and woman.

  4. My day will not go perfectly, and that’s okay.

  5. I will make my own rules and choose what’s best for me and my family.

  6. I am allowed to take a break and breathe, having needs does not make me a bad mom.

  7. I trust my intuition as a mom and as a woman.

How to Practice & Use Your Affirmations

The absolute BEST way to use and practice your affirmations is by creating a habit - typically in the morning. My favorite ways include journaling your affirmations each morning, this also gives you the opportunity to pick up journaling! Try writing down your affirmations every morning along with a journal prompt.

My second favorite way is pretty straightforward - repeating affirmations to yourself in the mirror! This really puts it into your head, but doesn’t feel as connected (in my personal experience) as the other two. And, finally, my third favorite: Meditation. 

I highly recommend building a morning routine for yourself that includes both affirmations and self-care. For example, having your cup of coffee in the morning sitting in a cozy chair or out on the patio. While you’re enjoying your coffee you can repeat your affirmations and set your intentions for the day as well as practice gratitude for yesterday and where you are in life. 

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