Saying Goodbye to the People Pleaser in Me

There was just something about having an argument, a riff, between me and someone who didn't actually matter (or did) in my daily life that made me anxious, nervous, it would take over my thoughts and just grip my brain until I was repeating the situation over and over - just trying to figure out what I needed to say to make them happy, to make the situation go away so that our relationship was harmonious, even if that meant I was "being the bigger person" 24/7. That was the people-pleaser Jess. 


7 Steps for a Better Morning

The perfect morning routine really does exist - although it might look a little different for everyone. Creating morning routines and habits leads to more productive days and a better disposition when faced with difficulties, which, as a mom of two, difficulties do pop up… a lot.

It took me years to develop a routine that kept me in my mom power and allowed me to take charge of the day rather than letting the day take over me. These routines might look a little different when you adapt them to yourself, but I highly recommend trying them out - even if just for a week - and seeing how they change your mornings. 

Here are seven steps you can take for a better morning:

#1. Skip Screen Time - for Yourself

Don’t let picking up your phone be the first thing you do when you wake up. You don’t need to read those emails, check your socials, or anything else like that just yet. That all brings the pressure to start work right away. Instead, take a moment to yourself, relax, this can even just be 15 minutes waking up in bed. I promise it’ll help - although the first few days might leave you feeling anxious!

#2. Drink Water, Then Coffee

We have our wake-up habits and one of those - or at least mine - is (was) to go straight to the coffee maker. But, hear me out, drinking coffee is fine but you want to drink water BEFORE coffee. Drinking water in the morning flushes out your system and gives you that “refreshed” feeling in the morning. And when you feel good, you’re able to get more done and embrace a better mood.

#3. Move Your Body

You don’t need a 5k run or even a 30-minute workout, a simple, five-minute stretch is enough! Get your body moving, your blood flowing, and stretch your muscles. Movement reduces stress and boosts energy, giving you a better start to your day.

#4. Express Gratitude

I swear by expressing gratitude. It makes you feel better, both mentally and physically, and helps with accepting the things that come your way. It’s actually one of my most important daily routines. Practicing gratitude can feel overwhelming and cheesy, but it doesn’t need to be. You don’t have to speak paragraphs about everything that happens, take a few moments and appreciate the positive things in your life. 

#5. Journal! Or Make a To-Do List

It’s really about setting your intentions for the day! Whether you choose to journal (my personal favorite) or create a to-do list or simply create a goal for the day. Did you know that you’re 40% more likely to accomplish your goals if you write them down? 

#6. Spend Time With Family

As a mom, spending a little quality time with my kids and husband before we go our separate ways in the morning. Even if it’s only a few minutes, it makes a big difference in how I approach the day.

#7. Set and Stick to Your Boundaries

Part of the reason we become overwhelmed in the mornings or even throughout the day is because we don’t stick to the boundaries we set for ourselves. If you work from home like I do, we can easily end up mixing our personal with our professional - often letting professional drift into our personal time. 

Mindset for Busy Moms

We are all busy. Every single one of us. Yet I'm biased to say Moms are even more swamped. It's because we run the house, we run the show, we cook, clean and do all the things for ourselves and our family. Plus we work! Either in or outside the home! I also run a business which I'm inclined to think makes me a little bit busier too. But this isn't about a busy badge of honor, instead its about-how I can incorporate so much into my busy lifestyle so I feel my best and love the life I live!

So, what's it for you Mama, what are your goals for everyday life for you? Do you want to live your best life every dang day? I hope so. Because you're the kind of Mom I want to lock arms with and become Mamahood besties with!  

My Top 3 things I always recommend to my newbie moms for Mindset that are FREE: 

  1. My Growing Mamas Mind Course
  2. Listen to Abraham Hicks anything mindset on YouTube
  3. Read Dr. Joe Dispenzas books. In particulate my fav is Breaking the Habit of Being yourself
  4. BONUS: Start paying attention to your actions. Your unconscious actions. For example, every free second you have do you pick up your phone. After dinner, are you always thinking of what’s for dessert? Notice where your mind goes without you thinking about it and then decide if you like where it goes or if it needs re-framing. 
The subconscious mind is on auto-pilot. It’s what helps us breathe, digest, etc. So we don’t have to consciously think of these things. It helps take care of all this for us. It’s also sneaky in that it does things we’ve allowed it to do as auto-programs. Things that don’t necessarily benefit us. And it’s our job in growing our mind to take back control and program our subconscious to work in our favor. 

So, how do we do this? The Mama Protocol is a great course I created to help Moms live and thrive in our best life. Moms who are tired of Mediocracy who want to FEEL their best. To reprogram our minds to actually serve us. So our automatic programs in our mind, actually help us! We were meant to be our best selves. To be patient, to be kind, to feel freaking fantastic. We want to break free from the judgements we put on ourselves; looking like Sally Sue on IG all dolled up, the laundry always folded as soon as it’s done. Letting go of the feeling we need to be able to do it all. All the time. That’s what society has put on us. That’s what we were taught. And yet we are succumbing to all the pressure and judgement thinking and feeling we have to keep up with everyone else. But what if we stopped. What if we pivoted and decided that no longer worked for us? What if we got quiet and grabbed a pen and paper and wrote down what we wanted in life? What if we left our phone for an afternoon? What if you got to write your own rules on what your life looked like as a Mom?

Who says you can’t? Not me. It’s time for you to break free Mama. Break free from the judgements of yourself and everyone else. I promise when you do this the freedom you will experience will be- well nothing that can be explained. It’s here for you. The Life you’ve always wanted. And on your terms. Are you ready for it?

Let’s grow your Mama Mindset together. It’s all here.

Stress Relief Activities for Spring

Do you know the number 3 cause of disease in our Country is stress? Say what?!? And stress is 100% preventable. The top causes of poor health are stress, sugar and (lack of) sleep. And all of these are preventable. So, let’s work on getting these under control ok. We want to feel better so we can LIVE more.

Today we are going to talk about stress relieving activities for Spring. We live in the frigid north so by the time Spring comes around we can’t wait to get things cleaned up from Winter and get outside. Spring is my favorite season for a multitude of reasons; my birthday is in the Spring, Winter is long in our state and we don’t get enough sunshine, plus there’s just something about those gorgeous flowers that come in in Spring. Tulips anyone? 

Spring also means we can get outside. And grounding with the Earth leaves us feeling calm and peaceful. A feeling each one of us wants more of. How can you integrate getting outside more this spring to reduce your stress level?

Move your body. Longer days mean more time for ourselves. Get outside and move your body. We’ve often been cooped up inside so it’s time to get out and enjoy the longer, sunnier day and move. Moving your body increases endorphins which makes us feel better, So, go girl go! I’ve shared before but there is a direct correlation for me when I’m feeling stressed and anxious that the more movement I  do in a day or harder movement (running, biking, HIIT, etc) the better I feel!

Eat Whole Foods. Remember what I said about over consumption of Sugar being one of the top reasons for disease? So eye opening, isn’t it? When you’re feeling extra stressed, limit your sugar intake. Sugar plays into feelings of stress and anxiousness and then our bodies crave more making it a sick circle of more and more sugar and more and more stressed feelings. Instead of eating refined sugar, try incorporating real sugar from fruits into your diet. You might notice a detox Period of when you come off the refined sugar but the added benefits I  promise will be way worth it!

Get enough sleep. When we are feeling highly stressed in might be hard to turn off our brains and sleep each night. I get it. I’ve been there. But sleep is so important to allow our body that restorative rest it needs to function for the next day and regulate our body systems. If you’re having a hard time shutting off your brain at night here’s a few suggestions on how to fall into easy, peaceful sleep! 
    1. Read a book before bed
    2. Limit screen time (tv and phone 30 minutes before bed)
    3. Take a bath before bed. I love to take an epsom salt bath with my favorite essential oils
        4. Listen to a meditation of guided sleep

And last but certainly not least, one of my favorite things to incorporate into my life that have made a HUGE difference in my stress and anxiety level is….Meditation. There are tons of guided meditations out there that you can use on YouTube but some of my favorites are those my Abraham Hicks and Dr. Joe Dispenza. 

What are some of your go-to tips for relieving stress? I’d love to hear them below and share with my Mama Community after all, we are all in this together. We want to feel better so we can LIVE more.

All of us Mamas gotta stick together, we are all in this together and it takes a community to raise our babies and ourselves. Remember to treat yourself well!

XO, Jess