11 toxic af habits you need to kick now

 

2021 is our year to start living our best life yet and in order to do that there are some habits that are toxic af that needed to be kicked to the curb now. You ready for these? It might rock your world, but in a good way, I  promise! I  love you and you need these!

  1. Stop talking bad about your body. Don’t do it. The more you rip on yourself the worse you’ll feel. Instead Compliment your body. What do you like about it? Stand in front of the mirror and say at least 1 thing you like.
     2. Stop talking about other people. Stop judging them. The gossip you’re saying about them comes back and reflects on you. Ever heard of the law of vibration?
The Law of Vibration states that everything in the Universe moves, travels and vibrates in circular motions. In relation to our physical world, this also applies to our feelings. our thoughts, our dreams and our free will. That old saying ‘like attracts like’ is actually referring to how our own vibrational energy, attracts or aligns with the same or similar vibrational energy.
Thankfully we have complete control over the energy we put out to the universe and therefore control over what energy aligns with ours and comes back to us.
This awareness, once harnessed and understood is incredibly powerful as you move through your life here on earth.

So, guess what when you’re talking bad about someone or gossiping you’re putting out that negative vibration…and that comes back to you. Which you don’t want. So stop doing it!

     3. Worrying about all the things. Worry does no good. Why worry about something that might or could happen? When I became a Mom I was filled with worry. And guess what all of that worry I  had, none of those worries came to be yet I wasted all that time and energy. For what? For nothing. What if I  would’ve spent that energy on doing good things, helping people or filling my heart? 

    4. Stop Comparing yourself to others. You’ll never be them. And thank GOD. We all need to be different. Comparison is the thief of Joy. When you find yourself comparing. Flip that script. Say out loud to yourself some things about yourself you love. Come on, you have at least one. And if you can’t think of one, email me, we can talk and I’ll tell you one!

   5. Let Go of what other people think of you. I used to succumb to the opinons of others and live my life based on what people thought of me. Soooo many judgments. And I  finally realized this wasn’t a way to live. These people who I  cared so much about what they thought about me weren’t living my life. They weren’t paying my bills. They didn’t have to be around me all the time and like me. So ditch that toxic AF habit. You deserve better and its so much freaking better on the other side, I  PROMISE!

    6. Let go of grudges. The only one you’re hurting by holding a grudge is you. Read that again! Let it go, let it go- in the wise words of Elsa :) (signed a Mom who forever has Frozen in her brain)

    7. Stop mindlessly scrolling on your phone. Do you have any idea how much time you waste? Set a timer on your phone for 15 minutes when you want scroll time. When it’s up. Put the phone down. Life is happening all around you and you’re missing it when on your phone!

    8. Release the need to be busy all the time. It’s a hard one, I  know. Especially if you’re a Mom. But everyone, everyone needs down time. When is your next scheduled down time? If you don’t one planned, get it on the books!

    9. Stop hitting the snooze. Most people I know set an alarm to wake them up at a specific time – but they also hit snooze. Instead of hitting snooze after your first alarm goes off, count yourself down from 3, and after 1, just get up. Then, in the extra 10 or 20 minutes you have, complete that annoying task you’ve been putting off forever so that you can start your day feeling productive and accomplished.

   10. Get up at least an hour a day before your kids. I  talk more about this in the Take your Day Back Challenge inside The Mama Vault. But seriously this allows you some time for you first Mama, which makes a whole heck of a difference in your day when you get me time first thing instead of being woke up by the baby alarm clock. 

    11. Stop living in the past. I have some friends who LIVE in the past and its soooo frustrating because they are missing the present right in front of them! Their babies growing up, the time we are spending together, etc. The past is over. Make peace with that. And focus on the present. Make peace with the past. If you look to the future it can cause anxiousness so focus on right here, right now, the PRESENT.


Remember to Treat yourself Well,
Jess

Simple strategies to avoid mom burnout

 
Burn out. Have you heard this word lately? If you’re a mom, I can imagine you’re feeling this word lately. We are a year into the pandemic, our lives have been turned upside down, our kids are at home a LOT and so are we. It’s created a lot of stress, anxiety and overwhelm. After a lot of time of these three feelings; stress, anxiety and overwhelm- it leads to burn out. So, I’m gonna talk to you as Mom friends about some simple strategies to avoid mom Burnout. Ready? Let’s roll! 


First things first and this ranks in importance as number one;  get some time to yourself every dang day Mama, no exception. The qualifications that must be met in this strategy are: you’re by yourself, you have at least 20 minutes, and you’re doing whatever the heck you want-just for YOU. If you think I mean driving to the grocery store alone in the car- That doesn’t count! If you think I mean the 10 minutes that you drive to school pick up to get your kids-that doesn’t count! What does count, is alone time, doing something you want, love or find joy in for at at least 20 minutes everyday. Trust me. You need and deserve it. And If you don’t think you do- let’s chat. You need The Mama Protocol Because you can make time for you Mama and you deserve it. 

One of the top tips I’m also a firm believer in is to get yourself in a routine or (cringe if you may- a schedule)! What’s a schedule do for you? Well many things but here’s just a few to consider. You’ll have a plan for the day. I teach you all about this in the Take your day back Challenge inside The Mama Vault. You’ll know what to expect, you can plan your day which allows you more control, which helps with feeling happy and healthy NOT stressed and overwhelmed. Having a routine also has these benefits; fitting time in for yourself, allowing you to set boundaries for what you may or may not have time for and if you’re a type A personality you might just live your best life with a schedule (guilty as charged 🤣)

The next thing you can do to avoid mom Burnout is to move your body. It’s no coincidence that you always feel better after you move your body. It’s because when you move your body, your brain releases endorphins which make you feel dang good. So, the movement of what you do is up to you. But, I’ll share personally, the more intense the movement is the better I feel. So yoga isn’t really my thing- I appreciate it but if I’m feeling overwhelmed, stressed and anxious yoga doesn’t help me. Running, a brisk walk, a bike ride, a HIIT class do the trick!


The last strategy I recommend would be to limit your sugar intake. Many of us moms turn to Food and emotional/stress eating when times get chaotic. Ironically, what that does to us and our brains is detrimental. Too much sugar depletes our energy, makes us moody and doesn’t help how we feel about ourselves when we look in the mirror. So, instead of turning to food for comfort during stressful times, I recommend dialing in on Whole Food nutrition not sugar. Check out The Mama Protocol where I break down real food for you. Why you want to eat it, how you’ll feel amazing, lose weight oh and give you 25 meal plan recipes that are husband + toddler approved!



How to find out what's really in your laundry soap and ditch it without breaking the wallet!

How to find out what's really in your laundry soap and ditch it without breaking the wallet!

When we are considering the health of our family, another area to take a closer look are the products we are using in the laundry room. I encourage you to consider the ingredients in your laundry detergent. Once you have stopped using your old laundry detergent for even a month and you go back and try to breathe that stuff or anything that’s been washed in it, you will thank me. If, for some reason, some article of our clothing gets washed in traditional detergents, I have to wash it multiple times to get that out before I’m comfortable with us using it. Just because it’s “free and clear” and you don’t smell fragrances, there can still be many of these other lurking ingredients. 

Many families suffer from eczema, respiratory issues, cancer, sensory processing disorders, and autoimmune diseases that can be triggered or worsened by ingredients found in detergents. Your traditional laundry detergent needs to go. It is literally 24/7 exposure through your respiratory system and skin to horrible things your body has to work hard to process. Strain on your organs. Strain on your health. 

WHAT INGREDIENTS SHOULD I AVOID? Need an easy button on what ingredients you should avoid like the plague? Here's your  Busy Mom Hack

  • Fragrance: Manufacturers combine a number of chemicals to produce a fragrance—so you’ll believe your clothes are clean because they smell clean—and they don’t have to list those chemicals on the label because of trade protection. As we’ve seen, some of those chemicals can be very toxic. 
  • Cleaning agents (surfactants): These are included in the formula to help the product clean better. Examples include chemicals like quaternium-15 (known to release formaldehyde, a known carcinogen), diethanolamine (linked with skin and eye irritation and possibly liver problems), nonlphenol ethoxylate or NPE (toxic to nerves, irritating to skin, potential hormone disruptor, toxic to aquatic life), linear alkyl benzene sulfonates or LAS (irritating to skin and eyes and toxic to aquatic life; benzene on its own is a carcinogen), and petroleum distillates (linked to cancer and lung damage). 
  • Stabilizers: These chemicals help stabilize the formula, so that it lasts longer on the shelf. Examples include polyalkylene oxide or ethylene oxide, which are linked with eye and lung irritation, and even dermatitis. And yet we wonder why we can’t clear up these lingering skin issues. 
  • Bleach: Bleach may be used separately or may be included in the detergent itself. It’s known to irritate skin, eyes, and lungs, and when it mixes with wastewater, it can form toxic organic compounds that have been linked with respiratory issues, liver, and kidney damage. 1,4-dioxane: This is a chemical by-product of detergent manufacturing. In independent tests, Women’s Voices for the Earth found 89 parts per million (ppm) in Tide Free & Gentle and 63 ppm in regular Tide. They helped increase awareness, and Proctor & Gamble agreed to reformulate to reduce levels to below 25 ppm. Future tests should show whether they made good on that promise. Don’t have a lot of confidence in the progress being made here. 
  • Brighteners: You’ll find these in detergents advertising their “brightening” powers. Brighter whites! Brighter colors! What’s creating all this brightness? Chemicals that actually remain
on the clothes to absorb UV light and help clothes “appear” brighter. We’re talking things like naphthotriazolystilbenes (linked with developmental and reproductive effects), benzoxazolyl, diaminostilbene disulfonate, and more. Since these remain on the clothes, they are likely to come into contact with skin. 
  • Phosphates & EDTA: Manufacturers use these to make detergents more effective in hard water, and to help prevent dirt from settling back on clothes when they’re washing. These chemicals have long been associated with environmental damage, particularly in our streams and waterways. They cause algae blooms that damage ecosystems. Many detergents have eliminated these, but they’re often using ethylene diamine tetraacetic acid (EDTA) in its place, which does not readily biodegrade, and has been found to be toxic in animal studies.

Even though it was hard to break away from the detergent I had used for years, I knew that switching to Thieves Laundry Soap was right for me. Ask yourself, “is my health worth at least TRYING this out for a little while?” I know you can make the commitment."


Here's where you can find the Laundry Soap my family and I  use and how its so cost efficient it only costs me $.25 a load! Oh yea and it's non toxic because thats how we roll. Check it out.

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Goal Getter

Goal Getter
It's October...yep Already!!!

Every 1st of the month, I  dig deep and set goals. Big Scary goals for 6 or so months out and then goals for the next 7 days through the end of the month!

Your work has to match your goals.


So many claim amazing, incredible, life changing goals but then aren't willing to show up, work, + grow like it will require.

I'm going to share some personal goals with you in October for me!
** 10k Instagram Followers by 10/31
** Launch Website by 10/15
**50 Mama Vault Subscribers by 10/31
**Help my Team reach their goals
**Put phone away from 5-7pm every night
**Play pretend more with my kids
**Today is a gift and I'm here to use it!



❤️❤️❤️ 
Are you so pumped for your goal for the year but immediately think about the things that are going to hold you back (aka: excuses)?? Too busy? Lots of kids? No kids? Work out of the house? Another job? Introverted? Etc? Spoiler alert: there are Diamonds who are busy, with no kids, who have a bunch of kids, who work full time, who work out of the house, who have other businesses, who are introverted, etc. THIS MINDSET IS NOT GOING TO HELP YOU HIT YOUR GOAL.

➡️➡️➡️.         Personal reflection time:

➡️Are you showing up like you're going to make that happen??

➡️How can you tweak things to set yourself up for
success?? Focus in + be efficient with the time you have!

➡️When it feels hard you have to remind yourself that it SHOULD BE because what you are asking for is a lot. A lot of members, a lot of income, a lot of responsibility, a lot of impact, etc. It IS hard + you CAN do it.

Are you willing to commit to match your WORK to your goal? 

XOXO,
Jess

 

Anniversary Weekend Trip to Detroit-

Anniversary Weekend Trip to Detroit-
We celebrated our 10 year Anniversary this past weekend and it was amazing. For some reason, TEN years seems like a big deal to me. And frankly it is. TEN whole years or love, putting each other first, heartache, bumps in the road, learning about each other, kids and all the other things marriage entails; TEN years is a great thing to celebrate! 

But, I do think every year, heck everyday you are together, Healthy and Happy there should be a BIG celebration!

We fully intend to take a big Fabulous vacation to Antigua in November, over thanksgiving to celebrate further as long as COVID allows, but we also wanted to do something special the actual day of our Anniversary. So, in true Nick form he planned a surprise (of which I found out about accidentally but in a really funny way) to Detroit.

We stayed at the Shinola Hotel downtown Detroit. It is a fairly newer hotel and gorgeous. Shinola is a Detroit company most known for their watches which are Made in Detroit. And as a Michigan Native, I'm pretty proud of Detroit and any Michigan based company so of course we wanted to support them. We were blown away by the charm and character of the hotel. While it is newer you can definitely appreciate the older inspired character from the earlier times. The green and black subway tile with the solid oak floors and doors are gorgeous. And the floor to ceiling windows in our room gave way to a spectacular view or a constructions site- Ha- Where they are building a really cool Metropolitan building with Shopping Restaurants and will be the Metro Station. 

Detroit Gets a bad rap. And when I  would travel often for work, people would always ask me is Detroit as bad as they show on the news. Well, of course it isn't. Newsflash you can't believe everything (or maybe anything) you see/hear/read from the mainstream media. Detroit is actually thriving. There have been some big initiatives within the community including substantial investors who have come in and headquartered their businesses downtown and are rebuilding the community. Detroit has a Chicago feel to it to me and we lived in Chicago for 4 years. But Detroit is smaller at least for the time being. But the charm and the people in the heart of Detroit are much friendlier and there is a pride there because of what Detroit has been through. Bankruptcy, Mayor Heartbreak and so much more has brought the people together in a way that is admirable. It brings a warmness to my heart and smile to my face to visit, every. time.   

Want to check out Detroit and visit the Shinola hotel too? Here's your easy button Details including the Room type we stayed in:

Shinola Hotel
1400 Woodward Ave, Detroit, MI 48226
Alcove Room


 
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